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Mend My Ways

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“… for if my actions

have harmed someone,

I make a daily effort

to cause no futher harm.

I have mend my ways,”

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Daily Reflections,  p. 265

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To make amends means to change,

as in the “Amendments to the Constitution”

are changes that our forefathers made after the fact.

(History lesson for all, not just Americans.)

Not only do we make direct amends by apologizing

to those we have harmed, the most important

amends is to change old behaviors and

refrain from harming anyone again.

We need to ‘mend our ways,’ and become the person

our Higher Power wants us to be,

a kind and loving spouse, parent, friend

and fellow laborer in this journey we call life.

Today, be the best carrier of the A.A. message,

show everyone that the better way is a mended way.

Recovery is one day at a time.

Sobriety is a blessing from our Higher Power.

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ME and the Boss

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And, if no one has told you yet today,

God loves you and so do we.

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Step Nine

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9.”Made direct amends

to such people

wherever possible,

except when to do so

would injure them

or others.”

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BB,    p.  59

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Guilt and shame will keep the alcoholic drunk.

Step Nine is taking the necessary actions

to clear the wreckage of the past,

to put before us a life that has been cleared

of the guilt and shame.

Don’t say you are sorry and then try to run and hide,

remember, you are doing this for your own emotional well being

and the more thorough you are in completing this step

the smoother the sailing will be in the future.

Today, run a tight ship, tie up all of the loose ends.

Recovery is one day at a time.

Sobriety is a blessing from our Higher Power.

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ME and the Boss

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And, if no one has told you yet today,

God loves you and so do we.

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Promise #8

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“Self-seeking

will slip away.”

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BB p 84

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Better know as the Ninth Step promises,

this promise begins to appear

even before we are hallway through Step Nine,

making amends to those we had harmed.

As a drunk, rarely did we have true feelings,

especially when anesthetized and numbed

by the demon alcohol.

When we start to examine feelings in a true light,

not only our feelings but those of the people we had harmed,

we begin to recognize how selfish and self-centered

the disease caused us to be.

In recovery we begin to feel for others.

Today, get out of yourself, help another drunk.

Recovery is one day at a time.

Sobriety is a blessing from our Higher Power.

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ME and the Boss

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And, if no one has told you yet today,

God loves you and so do we.

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Hasty And Foolish

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“Usually, however,

other people are involved.

Therefore, we are not

to be the hasty

and foolish martyr

who would needlessly

sacrifice others

to save himself from the alcoholic pit.”

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BB,   p. 79

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The aim of the steps is to clear the wreckage of the past

not to add more problems to an already dysfunctional life.

It is the alcoholic nature to blame others

and ignore the part that they had to play in

creating hard feelings and misgivings.

One must be very careful with amends,

discuss them with a sponsor and make sure that you

protect the feelings of the innocent.

God does accept letters.

Recovery is one day at a time.

Sobriety is a blessing from our Higher Power.

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ME and the Boss

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And, if no one has told you yet today,

God loves you and so do we.

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Unrelenting Willingness

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“The essence of all growth

is a willingness to change

for the better and then

an unrelenting willingness

to shoulder whatever

responsibility this entails.”

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Grapevine, July 1965

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For every action there is an opposite

and equal reaction.

As a drunk we lied, cheated and stole

and now, in recovery,  as we get honest

and try to clear  the wreckage of the past

those old bad habits now require amends

for which we are responsible.

Today, practice patience and tolerance,

be willing and know that progress not perfection

is the pathway to happy, joyous and free.

Recovery is one day at a time.

Sobriety is a blessing from our Higher Power.

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ME and the Boss

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And, if no one has told you yet today,

God loves you and so do we.

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Sobriety First

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“He saw that he had

to place the outcome

in God’s hands

or he would soon

start drinking again,

and all would be lost

anyhow.”

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BB p 80

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Our secrets will keep us drunk.

To make amends or not to make amends

that is the question ???

Do the next right thing,

follow the suggestions in the Big Book,

talk to your sponsor and your support group,

discuss it with the family and when all else

seems confusing, pray and meditate.

Prayer is asking for guidance,

meditation is listening for the answer to your prayer.

Today, have faith, God will keep you sober

if you ask him to.

Recovery is one day at a time.

Sobriety is a blessing from our Higher Power.

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ME and the Boss

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And, if no one has told you yet today,

God loves you and so do we.

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Tact and Common Sense

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We don’t use this

as an excuse for

shying away from

the subject of God.

When it will serve

any good purpose,

we are willing to

announce our convictions

with tact and common sense.”

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BB p 77

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Before making amends for our injustices to others,

we talk to our sponsor, we read the BB suggestions

and we heed the gut feeling that says ” be wise.”

“It is seldom wise to approach an individual,

who still smarts from our injustice to him,

and announce that we have gone religious.”  BB p 77

Today, recovery is between you and your Higher Power,

let the rest of the world see by your actions

that you are a changed person, the alcoholic who

by the grace of God did not have to drink today.

Recovery is one day at a time.

Sobriety is a blessing from our Higher Power.

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ME and the Boss

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And, if no one has told you yet today,

God loves you and so do we.

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